Society Life September 2016 : Page 60

SL A DAY IN THE LIFE WITH AN ELITE MATCHMAKER SL: What experiences led you to your present position? SS: Recruiting for executives in a niche market and, of course, my educational background in clinical psychology. Most im-portantly, my intuition and innate curiosity about people makes me the best matchmaker out there. I ask deep questions that tell me a lot about a person. I get to know my clients on a very personal level—this makes me an excellent matchmaker. from an international matchmaking agency, and just like that, I interviewed and received an offer. This was a dream come true—I always wanted to do this! When reality set in, I realized this agency didn’t really care about matchmaking and their strategies were faulty. I decided then to start my own agency. LOOKING FOR LOVE A Day in the Life with Elite Matchmaker Sameera Sullivan With roots in Texas, Sameera Sullivan moved to the Portland area to pursue her education. She’s not only in the mood for love—she’s in the business of it! After many of her friends and family told her she should be a professional matchmaker, she decided to go for it... and she hasn’t looked back since. SL: What are the duties and responsibilities of a professional matchmaker? Saveen Sullivan: I take care of my clients—interview candidates (matches) via skype/in person, have lunch with them, set up introductions, get date feedback and coach clients when necessary. I oversee my team in various regions across the nation and ensure we receive a steady flow of quality single women in our registry database. SL: Best and worst things about your profession? SS: I love it when a client meets their match and puts their member-ship on hold. I commonly wait up to hear from a client about if their date went well. The most amazing feeling is when a client and their match tell me what an amazing date they had! I love getting notes from clients on how much they appreciate me or how amazing their experience has been with the process. But my favorite part is getting engagement pictures... I’ve even helped a client buy a ring for his future wife. Greatest experience ever! Getting invited to a wedding is the best reward. On the down side, I’m dissatisfied when a client is disappointed after a break up because things didn’t work out. I do my best to match people well, but I am not God. I’ve rarely had to terminate a client but when I do—it’s awfu! I care about the men and women that I advise... they’re putting their lives and trust in my hands and I want to make them happy. SL: What’s the matchmaking work flow like? SS: Well, there are certainly times where we’re not meeting with as many new clients, or not having to attend as many lunches or events. During slower times, I work on other projects with my team, interview candidates, ensure things are flowing smoothly, write blogs, attend media events and conduct in-terviews with reporters. Lately, I have been working on setting up retreats in Italy for women over 55—I am always busy! SL: What interests you most about this unique line of work? SS: I’m a match-maker at heart. I love bringing people together. It was a hobby at first... motivating others, giving relationship and life advice. My mother suggested I should charge peo-ple for my advice (she was joking of course!) I went to college and studied Psychology and Education Administration. Once I graduated with my Master’s Degree in Sci-ence, I followed my dream to start a private school for children with neurological dif-ferences. Unfortunately, that didn’t pan out, so I started an independent recruiting agency with my partner in the defense and aerospace industry. One day I got a call SL: Problems you face? SS: All kinds of things and even the unimaginable. Since I visit with every person interested in our service, I encounter many who will never become a client. I do refer them to a preferred dating/ relationship coaches. Due to this selective process, I can get harassing emails. Many of my clients haven’t been in a relationship for a while and the dynam-ics of a new relationship can be a big change. I coach both my client and the women they’re matched with. Even though the women don’t pay a fee to be in our registry, I share expert advice on different situations as they arise. My clients, and the ladies I match them with, can text me any time. Once in a while, some-one acts like a jerk on a date. I’ve had to terminate a few clients because of their behavior and “player” personality. I don’t work with players, narcissists, or men who treat women poorly. I rarely get these types but when I do, it’s a problem! SL: What’s most satisfying? SS: Knowing the difference I make in my client’s lives. The fact that I can help them revamp their image (and even sometimes their wardrobe) is the most satisfying to me. Men who thought they’d never find real love—despite the 6a Alarm Check emails 7a Breakfast (this is “me” time) Writing email responses Look at news and Facebook 8-11a Team Meeting Catch up on details Paperwork 12-2p Lunch with a current or potential client 3-4p Write blog posts Edit client profiles Interview “matches” 5-8p Interviews via Skype Dinner with a client (changes every day) 60 SEPTEMBER 2016 | SocietyLifeMag.com

A Day In The Life

Elite Matchmaker


LOOKING FOR LOVE

A Day in the Life with Elite Matchmaker Sameera Sullivan

With roots in Texas, Sameera Sullivan moved to the Portland area to pursue her education. She’s not only in the mood for love—she’s in the business of it! After many of her friends and family told her she should be a professional matchmaker, she decided to go for it... and she hasn’t looked back since.

SL: What are the duties and responsibilities of a professional matchmaker? Saveen Sullivan: I take care of my clients—interview candidates (matches) via skype/in person, have lunch with them, set up introductions, get date feedback and coach clients when necessary. I oversee my team in various regions across the nation and ensure we receive a steady flow of quality single women in our registry database.

SL: What interests you most about this unique line of work? SS: I’m a matchmaker at heart. I love bringing people together. It was a hobby at first... motivating others, giving relationship and life advice. My mother suggested I should charge people for my advice (she was joking of course!) I went to college and studied Psychology and Education Administration. Once I graduated with my Master’s Degree in Science, I followed my dream to start a private school for children with neurological differences. Unfortunately, that didn’t pan out, so I started an independent recruiting agency with my partner in the defense and aerospace industry. One day I got a call from an international matchmaking agency, and just like that, I interviewed and received an offer. This was a dream come true—I always wanted to do this! When reality set in, I realized this agency didn’t really care about matchmaking and their strategies were faulty. I decided then to start my own agency.

SL: What experiences led you to your present position? SS: Recruiting for executives in a niche market and, of course, my educational background in clinical psychology. Most importantly, my intuition and innate curiosity about people makes me the best matchmaker out there. I ask deep questions that tell me a lot about a person. I get to know my clients on a very personal level—this makes me an excellent matchmaker.

SL: What’s the matchmaking work flow like? SS: Well, there are certainly times where we’re not meeting with as many new clients, or not having to attend as many lunches or events. During slower times, I work on other projects with my team, interview candidates, ensure things are flowing smoothly, write blogs, attend media events and conduct interviews with reporters. Lately, I have been working on setting up retreats in Italy for women over 55—I am always busy!

SL: Best and worst things about your profession? SS: I love it when a client meets their match and puts their membership on hold. I commonly wait up to hear from a client about if their date went well. The most amazing feeling is when a client and their match tell me what an amazing date they had! I love getting notes from clients on how much they appreciate me or how amazing their experience has been with the process. But my favorite part is getting engagement pictures... I’ve even helped a client buy a ring for his future wife. Greatest experience ever! Getting invited to a wedding is the best reward. On the down side, I’m dissatisfied when a client is disappointed after a break up because things didn’t work out. I do my best to match people well, but I am not God. I’ve rarely had to terminate a client but when I do—it’s awfu! I care about the men and women that I advise... they’re putting their lives and trust in my hands and I want to make them happy.

SL: Problems you face? SS: All kinds of things and even the unimaginable. Since I visit with every person interested in our service, I encounter many who will never become a client. I do refer them to a preferred dating/ relationship coaches. Due to this selective process, I can get harassing emails. Many of my clients haven’t been in a relationship for a while and the dynamics of a new relationship can be a big change. I coach both my client and the women they’re matched with. Even though the women don’t pay a fee to be in our registry, I share expert advice on different situations as they arise. My clients, and the ladies I match them with, can text me any time. Once in a while, someone acts like a jerk on a date. I’ve had to terminate a few clients because of their behavior and “player” personality. I don’t work with players, narcissists, or men who treat women poorly. I rarely get these types but when I do, it’s a problem!

SL: What’s most satisfying? SS: Knowing the difference I make in my client’s lives. The fact that I can help them revamp their image (and even sometimes their wardrobe) is the most satisfying to me. Men who thought they’d never find real love—despite the money and success they have—and then boom! I find them a woman they can see spending the rest of their lives with... it’s very gratifying!

SL: Biggest hurdles? SS: Breaking patterns and barriers. People have patterns. I am responsible for breaking bad patterns and reminding them what they “want” and “need” is different. They learn to trust me and what I am doing. Sometimes it’s hard for people to let go, but once they do miracles happen and love enters!

SL: What do you like and not like about your industry? SS: It’s a difficult industry to work in, especially because you have to always be on guard when taking on a new client. I have a wait list each quarter because I only take on a certain number of clients. And, I only take on clients that I know I can help match. Have I been wrong? Of course, but you learn and move forward. There are scummers and people who mistake a high-end, elite matchmaker for an escort service—which is not the case!

SL: What accomplishment makes you fly highest? SS: I ‘fly highest’ when I successfully transform an individual by helping them to become the best version of themselves—and ultimately helping them find their soul mate. How can it get better than that? Seeing before and after pictures—and not just the change in the way they dress, but even their confidence level. Seeing a man who was so disappointed in his love life and thinking he was never going to find someone, then actually assisting him in finding someone special is a big gift for me!

SL: Are you a road warrior or desk jockey? SS: Both actually. Sometimes I am on the road all day—going from one meeting to another, having lunch with a client or a potential client, coffee dates with a few matches for clients, and sometimes having a dinner meeting or an event to attend. Some weeks, I spend most of my time at the office—it just depends. Each day is different. I may be in town Monday-Wednesday and then have to fly to another city in a blink of an eye to meet a new client—it constantly changes. I do travel quite a bit from New York City to Houston, Dallas and Portland.

SL: At the end of a day, I look forward to... SS: Knowing that I have some really amazing candidates in my pipeline to match with my clients. Also, that I will get to go workout and catch up on some news and some much needed ‘me’ time! Some evenings if I finish early, I love watching my favorite recorded shows.

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